LGBTQ Advice For Young Adults
Submitted By Jesus Paredes
I have learned so much since coming out as Gay a little over three years ago during my first year in college. I hope that this can help those exploring and coming out during college in what is okay as most of us have used college as our exploration platform. The LGBTQ community is here for you.
I know I may sound like your Mom, telling you to be safe sweetie but it is an important truth especially among the LGBTQ community. It’s important to take steps in having safe sex and being safe when meeting up. With an increase in STD rates in our community we all need to be safe and careful while having fun. One can look into getting PREP to lower HIV chances, get tested regularly and use a condom.
Don’t be afraid to put yourself out there.
What that means is be willing to try something new, maybe that’s downloading a dating/hookup app or going on a date with someone or even just going to the local gay bar with a group of friends. This is your time to try new things and explore new aspects of life, so download an app and talk to a guy and go on a date. It’s your time to be yourself and explore to figure out what you do and don’t like. Especially if your in college as an LGBTQ youth it can be a time to figure out your identity and become secure in it. I know this may sound a little cliche but its true, I entered college in the closet, came out at the start of my second semester and now as I’m preparing to leave college I am so grateful and proud of the chances I took on life, friends, fun, and men. If you aren’t willing to take a risk, what the point of living, it’s better to try something and succeed or fail than to never try and regret it the rest of your life.
Mental Health is Real and it’s nothing to be ashamed of.
Mental Health shouldn’t be something you should hide, it’s becoming an increasingly destigmatized aspect of everyday life. LGBTQ youth aren’t exempt, we suffer just as much or more from mental health issues as the rest of the population. So make sure you take care of yourself, get diagnosed if need be. But also always make time for yourself, take a mental day or two and escape from the world to recenter yourself.
Sex Is Positive.
What I mean is that we shouldn’t judge others based on the amount of sex one has or does not have. Being young tends to be the age when you are having the most fun. Sex isn’t bad, there tends to be a slut-shaming culture as well as lack of sex shaming in the LGBTQ and outside community. I have learned over time and much struggle that you should ignore these ideas and do what makes you happy, its your time to explore so if you want to be a HO, having a lot of one night stands then go ahead do it. Explore, taste test things because before you know it we will all be old and settled down in life. You can also decide to limit yourself and go on dates and not have tons of sex and that should not be a bad thing either. All you need is friends who will support your choice and hype you up on your choices while also making sure you make safe choices. Lastly don’t be ashamed of the word Ho or Slut, take those terms in pride and glory those are never negative terms. Being Young is the time to be adventurous, don’t be afraid to make mistakes because that’s when we learn the best from our failures.
SO ENJOY HAVE FUN, TRY SOMETHING NEW AND REMEMBER SEX IS POSITIVE.